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Wife: Acknowledge your failure to respect humbly. Both: Release the need to be right.’, scripture: ‘John 8:7’ }, { day: 2, title: ‘Identify Your Shortcomings’, phase: ‘A Foundation of Humility and Prayer’, subtitle: ‘Husband: Write down how your pursuit of personal desires hurt her. Wife: Write down how your disrespectful words or actions hurt him.’, scripture: ‘Psalm 139:23-24’ }, { day: 3, title: ‘Confess and Reflect’, phase: ‘A Foundation of Humility and Prayer’, subtitle: ‘Both: Confess your personal shortcomings to God and identify fears that led to withdrawal, not just from your spouse but from God.’, scripture: ‘1 John 1:9’ }, { day: 4, title: ‘Pray for a New Heart’, phase: ‘A Foundation of Humility and Prayer’, subtitle: ‘Husband: Pray to lead with a heart of compassion and patience. Wife: Pray for a heart of trust and understanding toward his leadership.’, scripture: ‘Ezekiel 36:26’ }, { day: 5, title: ‘Pray for Renewed Love’, phase: ‘A Foundation of Humility and Prayer’, subtitle: ‘Both: Pray specifically for a renewed love for your spouse, trusting that God can change your feelings and perspective.’, scripture: ‘Romans 5:5’ }, { day: 6, title: ‘Pray Together’, phase: ‘A Foundation of Humility and Prayer’, subtitle: ‘Both: As a couple, pray over Ezekiel 36:26, asking God to work this miracle of a new heart in both of you.’, scripture: ‘Matthew 18:20’ }, { day: 7, title: ‘Put on Spiritual Armor’, phase: ‘A Foundation of Humility and Prayer’, subtitle: ‘Husband: Pray for strength to be a spiritual protector. Wife: Pray for a peaceful spirit to support him in this.’, scripture: ‘Ephesians 6:10-18’ }, { day: 8, title: ‘Pray Against Lies’, phase: ‘A Foundation of Humility and Prayer’, subtitle: ‘Both: Pray against the enemy\’s lies that you have believed about each other and your marriage.’, scripture: ‘John 8:44’ }, { day: 9, title: ‘Identify “Leaks”‘, phase: ‘A Foundation of Humility and Prayer’, subtitle: ‘Husband: Identify temptations that steal time or affection from your wife. Wife: Identify dependencies or friendships that prevent you from turning to your husband first.’, scripture: ‘Proverbs 4:23’ }, { day: 10, title: ‘Establish a New Boundary’, phase: ‘A Foundation of Humility and Prayer’, subtitle: ‘Both: Create a new, specific boundary together to protect your marriage from outside influences that threaten to divide you.’, scripture: ‘Malachi 2:16’ }, // Phase 2 { day: 11, title: ‘Motives of Communication’, phase: ‘Rebuilding Communication and Connection’, subtitle: ‘Husband: Ask “Am I leading this conversation with love?” Wife: Ask “Am I responding with respect?”‘, scripture: ‘Ephesians 4:29’ }, { day: 12, title: ‘Practice Active Listening’, phase: ‘Rebuilding Communication and Connection’, subtitle: ‘Husband: Listen to understand her feelings, not just the facts. Wife: Listen to understand his perspective and logic.’, scripture: ‘James 1:19’ }, { day: 13, title: ‘Power of Your Words’, phase: ‘Rebuilding Communication and Connection’, subtitle: ‘Husband: Use words that build her up. Wife: Use words that honor him.’, scripture: ‘Proverbs 18:21’ }, { day: 14, title: ‘Create Ground Rules’, phase: ‘Rebuilding Communication and Connection’, subtitle: ‘Both: Establish new ground rules for conversations that promote safety, such as “no name-calling” or “no walking away.”‘, scripture: ‘Romans 12:18’ }, { day: 15, title: ‘Act of Service’, phase: ‘Rebuilding Communication and Connection’, subtitle: ‘Husband: Perform a selfless act of service. Wife: Perform an act of service that blesses his daily routine.’, scripture: ‘1 John 4:19’ }, { day: 16, title: ‘Love Language’, phase: ‘Rebuilding Communication and Connection’, subtitle: ‘Both: Identify your spouse\’s primary love language and practice it intentionally throughout the day.’, scripture: ‘Ephesians 5:2’ }, { day: 17, title: ‘Serve as a Team’, phase: ‘Rebuilding Communication and Connection’, subtitle: ‘Both: Discuss how you can serve each other as a unified team to accomplish a shared household task or goal.’, scripture: ‘Philippians 2:3-4’ }, { day: 18, title: ‘Barriers to Intimacy’, phase: ‘Rebuilding Communication and Connection’, subtitle: ‘Husband: Identify and confess emotional or spiritual barriers you have placed between you. Wife: Identify and confess your anxieties or walls.’, scripture: ‘Song of Solomon 2:16’ }, { day: 19, title: ‘Non-Screen Time’, phase: ‘Rebuilding Communication and Connection’, subtitle: ‘Both: Spend 15 minutes of non-screen time together, talking honestly and intentionally about your day.’, scripture: ‘Hebrews 10:24-25’ }, { day: 20, title: ‘Redefine Intimacy’, phase: ‘Rebuilding Communication and Connection’, subtitle: ‘Both: Have a conversation about what intimacy means to each of you, beyond the physical, and how you can create a safe space for vulnerability.’, scripture: ‘1 Corinthians 13:4-7’ }, // Phase 3 { day: 21, title: ‘Forgive and Release’, phase: ‘Deepening Commitment and Forgiveness’, subtitle: ‘Husband: Choose to forgive her and release the need for her to “fix it.” Wife: Choose to forgive him and release the need to punish him.’, scripture: ‘Colossians 3:13’ }, { day: 22, title: ‘Lay Down Old Wounds’, phase: ‘Deepening Commitment and Forgiveness’, subtitle: ‘Both: Discuss past hurts and offenses you need to lay down at the cross together.’, scripture: ‘Ephesians 4:31’ }, { day: 23, title: ‘Choose Forgiveness’, phase: ‘Deepening Commitment and Forgiveness’, subtitle: ‘Both: Agree on one small step you can take this week to demonstrate that you have chosen to forgive your spouse fully.’, scripture: ‘Matthew 6:14’ }, { day: 24, title: ‘Write Your Goals’, phase: ‘Deepening Commitment and Forgiveness’, subtitle: ‘Husband: Write down your spiritual leadership goals for your family. Wife: Write down your goals for supporting his leadership.’, scripture: ‘Amos 3:3’ }, { day: 25, title: ‘Share and Revisit Goals’, phase: ‘Deepening Commitment and Forgiveness’, subtitle: ‘Both: Share your individual goals and revisit a past shared goal you can work on now as a team.’, scripture: ‘Proverbs 16:3’ }, { day: 26, title: ‘Set a Spiritual Goal’, phase: ‘Deepening Commitment and Forgiveness’, subtitle: ‘Both: Read Matthew 6:33 and set one specific spiritual goal to work on together in the next year.’, scripture: ‘Matthew 6:33’ }, { day: 27, title: ‘Commit to Learning’, phase: ‘Deepening Commitment and Forgiveness’, subtitle: ‘Husband: Identify a faith-based resource on biblical manhood. Wife: Identify one on biblical womanhood.’, scripture: ‘Proverbs 27:17’ }, { day: 28, title: ‘Read or Listen Together’, phase: ‘Deepening Commitment and Forgiveness’, subtitle: ‘Both: Agree on a Christian book or podcast on marriage to read or listen to together this month.’, scripture: ‘2 Timothy 3:16-17’ }, { day: 29, title: ‘Schedule Growth Time’, phase: ‘Deepening Commitment and Forgiveness’, subtitle: ‘Both: Discuss what topics about marriage you need to learn more about as a couple and schedule time for this.’, scripture: ‘James 1:5’ }, { day: 30, title: ‘Plan for Learning’, phase: ‘Deepening Commitment and Forgiveness’, subtitle: ‘Both: Make a plan to schedule regular time to invest in learning and growing together in faith and knowledge.’, scripture: ‘James 1:22’ }, // Phase 4 { day: 31, title: ‘Review Progress’, phase: ‘Cementing the Covenant’, subtitle: ‘Both: Take time to review the progress you have made throughout the 40 days and celebrate small victories.’, scripture: ‘Malachi 2:16’ }, { day: 32, title: ‘Personal Mission Statement’, phase: ‘Cementing the Covenant’, subtitle: ‘Both: Write out a new personal “marriage mission statement” that aligns with God\’s will for your life together.’, scripture: ‘Proverbs 19:21’ }, { day: 33, title: ‘Shared Mission Statement’, phase: ‘Cementing the Covenant’, subtitle: ‘Both: Create a shared mission statement for your family, outlining your values and goals as a unified team.’, scripture: ‘1 Peter 3:8’ }, { day: 34, title: ‘Set Specific Goals’, phase: ‘Cementing the Covenant’, subtitle: ‘Both: Identify three specific goals to ensure you continue to grow together in love and faith, and how you will track progress.’, scripture: ‘Proverbs 3:5-6’ }, { day: 35, title: ‘Discuss Vow Renewal’, phase: ‘Cementing the Covenant’, subtitle: ‘Both: Read Hebrews 10:23-24 and discuss how you can symbolically or literally renew your vows as a public commitment.’, scripture: ‘Hebrews 10:23-24’ }, { day: 36, title: ‘Fast from Distractions’, phase: ‘Cementing the Covenant’, subtitle: ‘Both: Spend the day fasting from distractions (e.g., social media, TV) and dedicate the extra time to praying for your marriage.’, scripture: ‘1 Thessalonians 5:17’ }, { day: 37, title: ‘Deep Prayer’, phase: ‘Cementing the Covenant’, subtitle: ‘Both: Continue to dedicate extra time to deep prayer for each other, and for the restoration of your love.’, scripture: ‘Luke 18:1’ }, { day: 38, title: ‘Fasting and Prayer’, phase: ‘Cementing the Covenant’, subtitle: ‘Both: Another day of focused fasting and prayer for your future together and for God\’s will to be done in your marriage.’, scripture: ‘Matthew 17:21’ }, { day: 39, title: ‘Final Preparation’, phase: ‘Cementing the Covenant’, subtitle: ‘Both: Prepare for the final renewal of your covenant by preparing a written prayer or a new vow to share with each other.’, scripture: ‘Proverbs 21:5’ }, { day: 40, title: ‘Renew Your Covenant’, phase: ‘Cementing the Covenant’, subtitle: ‘Both: Renew your covenant with each other and with God in a special way, perhaps through a written prayer or a literal vow renewal ceremony.’, scripture: ‘Malachi 2:14’ } ]; const calendarGrid = document.getElementById(‘calendar’); steps.forEach(step => { const dayCard = document.createElement(‘div’); dayCard.className = ‘bg-white p-4 rounded-xl shadow-lg border gold-border transition-transform duration-300 hover:scale-105 transform hover:shadow-xl flex flex-col items-start text-left cursor-pointer’; let bgColor = ‘bg-gold-gradient’; dayCard.innerHTML = ` ${step.scripture ? `` : ”} `; calendarGrid.appendChild(dayCard); }); });